I've come to the conclusion that my life would not be my own if it weren't for sudden changes of plans. Mr. D will now be moving out at the same time I do into a rented room, so that we can rent out the house for a year (and wait for the market to improve to sell it next year - knock on wood). So that leaves quite a laundry list of things that must be done before July 23rd (or July 28th), depending ... see below.
I'm sort of scared to actually put this into writing for fear of overwhelming myself, but I figured this blog was a good place to record the small victories that are accomplished in preparing to uproot one's life and move 3,000 miles away. If I report daily what I actually did get done, I'll feel better that I'm on track.
By the way, since I moved to Durham 3 years ago, I pledged no less than three times that each move would be my last. Then the rent went up, or we decided to become homeowners or life threw a curveball and I decided to go back to CA. So much for that!
1) Go over bills with Mr. D
2) Decide what to keep and who is keeping it, and what to sell
3) Sell furniture on Craigslist/Facebook
4) Decide whether to road-trip it (leaving July 23rd) or fly (leaving July 28th). If I drive, I need to find at least one travel companion (4 possibilities right now), rent a car and pack my things decently enough to fit in a standard SUV. If I fly, I need to pack and ship almost all of my belongings and fit more necessities into two suitcases, one carry-on and a personal item.
5) Pay ALL bills through mid-August before departing
6) Purge closet: donate, trash or pack?
7) Clean out car trunk (aka throw out anything that's been in there since before we moved to the house last April)
8) Finalize contract with property manager and pay $200 escrow fee
9) Have master suite repainted
10) Help Mr. D move
11) Get more boxes!
12) If road tripping, map out route, find hotels along the way.
I'm sure I'm forgetting about 20 things but the list will grow as needed (and hopefully shrink even faster).
AAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!
Moved 3,000 miles across the country to take care of Dad during his battle with lung cancer. By his side until the day he died. Now trying to pick up the pieces.
About Me
- Teeny Jo
- Mommy to two awesome pooches. Living with the love of my life. In memory of "Dougie" my amazing father: 1950-2007.
My Hero
In those minutes or hours or days that we're able to carry the weight of this disease, that's when life happens. I know that, in the end, my burdens will become too heavy. But I don't see that as a failure. This isn't a contest or a race. We're not being judged against the actions of others. I think there's really only one thing I'm hoping for. When that time comes, I hope I can say, "I did my best." Then I'll know that I won my "fight," that I was able to bear my burdens. That's enough.-Leroy Sievers
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